Q When we treat people nicely they treat us very badly , especially in college , they think we are poor , powerless and take us for granted. And when we treat them with attitude we get RESPECT in return , why so ? A This is because of passive goodness. You must be good but not unintelligent. If you think people are taking you for granted show your strength. For which you must have the strength, not just attitude. Thus strength comes from spiritual growth.